How will you survive the world??

 It is an unjust world. How will you live in it?

You have three options. The first is passive acquiescence; this is what a normal, mentally healthy person does. Most of us conform to the world as we find it. Go along to get along. Join the mainstream. Accept the status quo. Kiss up, kick down. This is normal, because conformism is the virtue most rewarded by society. The world will leave you alone at worst, and applaud you at best. But you’ll leave it as unjust as you found it.

The second option is violent resistance; by “violent,” I don’t mean just physical acts, but verbal and mental ones. You resist the world’s unfairness, but you are angry and bitter. You defend the weak by hurting the strong, but you create enemies all around. You may do some good, but you’ll die by the sword, and after you, your enemies’ children will fight your children.

The third approach is nonviolent resistance; by “nonviolent,” I mean that you fight your enemies, but you don’t hate them. You’re not angry, you’re a “happy warrior;” you seek not to defeat, but to persuade; and if you can’t persuade, to simply stop evil without harming the evildoer. You may not persuade your enemies, but their children and grandchildren will come around to your view. You’ll leave the world a better place.

If you seek to take the hard road, I advise you to be careful, and learn the methods of nonviolent resistance. Study Martin Luther King and Mahatma Gandhi, not because their lives were happy (they weren’t), but because they left a legacy of progress which millennia of history failed to provide. It’s the same in the profession as in larger society: We’ve been fighting each other for centuries, without meaningful progress, because we’ve either been violent in mind and word, or we’ve been passively acquiescent. The third road is the hardest for the person, but the best for the world.

As for you, look into your soul. Don’t be shy. Be honest. Be brutal.

I have thought that Nietzsche got it right: One way of understanding these matters is think of our task in life as becoming who we are. You are someone; it may take your life for that someone to unfold. You do well to become who you are, rather than to deny yourself, or distort yourself, or never to get to know yourself. You don’t really know who you are right now, but you have an inkling. And over time, that inkling can grow until you are more and more confident in yourself.

Freud had another insight into it. He said that in decisions of great importance—such as choosing a career, or whom to marry—he found that it was best to go with one’s inner instinct, with a sense of what’s right that might be difficult to explain or defend. This intuitive approach is more accurate, he thought, than purely rational calculations, because it puts you in touch with your deepest needs. So as you look into your soul, pay closest attention to your intuitive feelings, even if you can’t explain them.

It isn’t a fault to want to live a quiet life. You don’t need to be a hero. If you want to make a living, make a living in that field which will provide you the least daily hassle. Then follow your dreams outside of your profession. Make a living however you find most profitable, but find the passion of life elsewhere. Look into what gives you meaning, what you think will give your life its deepest meaning. Put your efforts there.

If you feel a deeper calling within the profession, follow it, but prepare yourself for the resistance of the world. Find your solace inside yourself, not outside. And know then that you are like the saints of old, but in a different era, doing God’s work in a world where gods no longer are recognized.

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Are we free….Or should we depend on destiny??

A man came to Junnaid, a Sufi mystic, and asked him,
”What do you say about pre-determination, kismet, fate, and the freedom of man?
Is man free to do whatever he wants to do?
Or is he simply a puppet in the hands of an unknown puppeteer, who simply dances the dance that the puppeteer chooses?”
Junnaid is one of the few beautiful mystics.
He shouted at the man, ”Raise up one leg!”
The man was a very rich man; Junnaid knew it. All the disciples, the whole school knew about it – and he had shouted so loudly and so rudely,
“Raise one leg up!”
And the rich man had never followed anybody’s orders; he had not gone there to follow orders.

And he could not conceive even a far off, far-fetched, off-the-wall relationship between his question and this answer.

But when you are facing a man like Junnaid you have to follow him.
He raised his right leg.
Junnaid said, ”That is not enough. Now raise the other, too.”
Now the man was at a loss, and angry also.
He said, ”You are asking absurdities!
I had come to ask a philosophical question – that you simply dropped without answering.
You asked me to raise one leg, I raised my right leg. And now you are asking me to raise the other, too.
What do you want?
How can I raise both legs?”
Junnaid said,
“Then sit down. Have you received the answer to your question or not?”
The man said,
“The answer to my question has not been given yet. Instead you have been training me in this parade!”
Junnaid said,
“See the point: when I said, ‘Raise one of your legs’ you had the freedom to choose either the right or the left.
Nobody was determining it, it was your choice to raise the right leg.
But once you had chosen the right leg you could not choose the left too. It is your freedom that has determined the fact of your bondage. Now your left leg is in bondage.”
Man is half free and half in bondage, but he is free first.
And it is his freedom, how he uses his freedom, that determines his bondage.
There is nobody sitting there writing in your head or making lines on your palms.

You are free, but each act of freedom brings a responsibility – and that is your bondage. Either call it ‘bondage’, which is not a beautiful word, or call it ‘responsibility’.
*That is what I call it. You choose a certain act – that is your freedom – but then the consequences will be your responsibility.*

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Death of Common Sense

An Obituary printed in the London Times…..Absolutely  Brilliant !!

LONDON – February 7, 2012

Today we mourn the passing of a beloved old friend, *Common Sense* who has been with us for many years. No one knows for sure how old he was, since his birth records were long ago lost in bureaucratic red tape. He will be remembered as having cultivated such valuable lessons as:

  • Knowing when to come in out of the rain;
  • Why the early bird gets the worm;
  • Life isn’t always fair;
  • And maybe it was my fault.

*Common Sense* lived by simple, sound financial policies (don’t spend more than you can earn) and reliable strategies (adults, not children, are in charge).

His health began to deteriorate rapidly when well-intentioned but overbearing regulations were set in place. Reports of a 6-year-old boy charged with sexual harassment for kissing a classmate; teens suspended from school for using mouthwash after lunch; and a teacher fired for reprimanding an unruly student, only worsened his condition.

*Common Sense* lost ground when parents attacked teachers for doing the job that they themselves had failed to do in disciplining their unruly children.
It declined even further when schools were required to get parental consent to administer sun lotion or an aspirin to a student; but could not inform parents when a student became pregnant and wanted to have an abortion.
*Common Sense* lost the will to live as the religious institutions became businesses; and criminals received better treatment than their victims.
*Common Sense* took a beating when you couldn’t defend yourself from a burglar in your own home and the burglar could sue you for assault.
*Common Sense* finally gave up the will to live, after a woman failed to realize that a steaming cup of coffee was hot. She spilled a little in her lap, launched a lawsuit and was promptly awarded a huge settlement.

*Common Sense* was preceded in death,

  • by his parents, Truth and Trust,
  • by his wife, Discretion,
  • by his daughter, Responsibility,
  • and by his son, Reason.

He is survived by his 5 stepbrothers;

  • I Know My Rights
  • I Want It Now
  • Someone Else Is To Blame
  • I’m A Victim
  • Pay me for Doing Nothing

Not many attended his funeral because so few realized he was gone.
If you still remember him, pass this on. If not, join the majority and do nothing.

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Wonderful Rose Show in Gurgaon.

The All India Winter Rose Show was organised in Gurgaon for the first time by Rose Society of India in association with Haryana Urban Development Authority (HUDA) on 24th and 25th December 2016, at Leisure Valley Park in sector 29, Gurgaon.

I was lucky to see the vast variety of beautiful roses in different colors, sizes and patterns. There were also lots of very good bouquet arrangements using a variety of roses.

Prizes were distributed to the winners for best rose plants in various categories.

Here I am posting few pictures from the Rose show.

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Be careful with your Social Media posts

social-media-riskSocial Media, today, has become almost indispensable part of our lives. We are spending quite a lot of our time, energy and thought process on various forms of social media. There is nothing wrong in changing with time and adopting the new technologies. But anything that goes out of a certain limit becomes a nuisance.

In this post I will be discussing about how parents may harm their children’s reputations by sharing too much about them on social media.

Parents can benefit from the emotional support and practical advice they get by discussing their experiences with other parents in online forums. Social media can be a wonderful tool. But parents often post private information without realizing that it leaves an indelible, sometimes public record. The information that parents place in the digital universe can reach far into children’s past and far into their future.

For example, a comment about a parent’s struggle with potty training a child could pop up in an Internet search when the child encounters cyberbullying in middle school or applies for a job. Photographs can be copied and shared repeatedly, reaching a much wider audience than parents intended. One study in Australia found that half of all photographs on pedophilia websites had been pirated from social media. They were not partial nude pictures, they were just pictures of people doing normal things. Kidnappers or identity thieves can also make use of information posted about children, like the time and place a photograph was taken.

Following precautions have been recommended for the parents:

  • Know your social media sites’ privacy policies.
  • Set up notifications to alert you when your child’s name is online and is available through a search on Google.
  • Parents who choose to share about their children’s behavioral struggles should consider opting to share anonymously.
  • Use caution before sharing your child’s location.
  • Consider giving older children “veto power” over online disclosures.
  • Consider the risks before posting pictures of children in any state of undress.
  • Consider the effect sharing can have on your child’s future well-being.

Pediatricians typically counsel adolescents to be careful about what they post, because it leaves a digital footprint. But they don’t counsel parents. Most parents are probably more clueless than the patients. Pediatricians could offer anticipatory guidance to parents about the way they use social media, much like the guidance they offer about car seats or sudden infant death syndrome.


Next time, be careful what you post or share on any form of Social Media.

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Frequent Routine Dental Care is Protective Against Pneumonia


For most of the people health is the last priority in life. We keep on postponing health issues unless it becomes a real hindrance to our routine activities and work. Routine health check are considered just a waste of time. Many people think it simply as something advised by doctors to make easy money.

Routine dental checks are nowhere in the list unless there is bad tooth-ache. But we all need to change this mindset. Life threatening diseases like cancer can be diagnosed in very early stages and treated in much better way, if we go for routine health checks at least once or twice in a year.

According to a recent analysis, twice-yearly dental check-ups appear to protect against developing pneumonia compared with less frequent dental visits. The findings further support the link between poor dental hygiene and bacterial infection. There may be a relatively simple intervention, routine preventive dental care, that can assist in achieving pneumonia prevention.

In the study, compared with persons who visited the dentist at least twice a year, persons who had dental check-ups less than once a year had a 49% increased risk for pneumonia and persons reporting never having visited a dentist had an 86% risk.

Even in healthy persons, small quantities of saliva can aspirate into the lung. The content of that saliva depends on one’s overall oral health. If there are pathogenic bacteria, this could cause pneumonia.

It’s good to not forget the teeth as part of the whole body and a component of wellness. Frequent dental care is something that patients can do themselves to reduce their risk for many related illnesses.





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Shubh Deepawali

Today is Diwali – the festival of lights.

While we all light our houses today, do spend some time today to light a few lamps inside u and sit in silence with ur eyes closed… 

Light the first lamp inside u and let it burn your anger and / or jealousy that u may have for any one till date; see it melt away…
Light the second lamp and let it burn away unwanted greed and desires… feel happy and contented with what you have been blessed with.
Light the third lamp and let it fade away all insecurities that you may have in your mind related to anything or financials; just beleive that God has given u life and he will surely give you enough to survive.
Light the 4th lamp and carry that lamp to each part of ur body; let it burn away all your diseased cells or any disease in making. Feel healthy as this lamp travels to each body part and illuminates each organ. 
The 5th lamp is a miniature of the Sun… nothing but the divine light… light it in the centre of your body and let it fill the warmth and love inside your whole body…feel one with the Divine… let the love and warmth filled inside you ooze out of you through your smile…eyes..speech…and body….carry this love with you through out the day…u will find that everyone who meets you is happy and elated. This is the biggest blessing that whoever meets you becomes happier after meeting you… this will also make you happier in return.
Light these 5 lamps each day morning and carry the positivity wherever u go…
Wish you a very happy Diwali….
God bless us All..🙏

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